Every single day I hear from people who have had terrible experiences with healthcare providers. I often write about issues with overt weight stigma and the weight-loss paradigm in working higher-weight with patients/clients. Today I’d like to discuss things that often get said in front of these patients, but not to them. These things can cause significant harm, including damaging the relationship between the provider and the patient, making the patient less likely to be open and honest, and driving patient disengagement from care.