Part 3: Let's Talk about Healing Our Childhood Sexual Shame.

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CITATIONS FOR TODAY'S EPISODE

1. How To Overcome Sexual Shame (And Finally Love Sex) -. (2018, November 11). Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/how-to-overcome-sexual-shame-and-finally-love-sex/
2. Nagoski, E. (2015). Come as you are: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life. New York: Simon & Schuster Paperbacks.
3. Easton, D., & Hardy, J. (2017). The ethical slut: A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other adventures. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379
4. Spector, D. (2013, October 15). 11 Groundbreaking Findings That Changed How We Think About Sex. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.businessinsider.com/11-findings-that-revolutionized-our-understanding-of-sex-2013-10
5. Locke, S. (2014, July 01). Sex researchers manage to study the most intimate of human experiences. Here's how. Retrieved September 21, 2020, from https://www.vox.com/2014/7/1/5858034/sex-researchers-manage-to-study-the-most-intimate-of-human

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RESOURCES/EXERCISES FOR YOU TO DO ON YOUR OWN

• https://msha.ke/codependentrecovery/   - Again, Cordelia's website has  "self-healing" resources on the website with free worksheets/etc.
• Recommended Books
  • The Purity Myth: How America's Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women by Jessica Valenti:  https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149
  • Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies, and Revolution by Laurie Penny:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KRDKH2G/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_GUqxFbSK749A9
  • Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive by Kristen J. Sollee -https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996485279/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_wWqxFbMD6Q98F
  • Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_hYqxFbJV59KF5
  • The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399579664/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_OYqxFbPNZMTY4
• Worksheets
  • Sex & Gender Messages: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/567a2d961115e097de2ef3df/t/568cbb0704acd3ba59b8295f/1347346680733/Worksheet4_AmINormal.pdf
    • It helps unpack where you learned about various concepts around sex and gender as a child.
  • Help to Talk about Sex with Partner (and to Figure Out What You Like) - https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/sexapalooza-handout-branded.pdf
    • This could be used to help you navigate conversations with your partner or figure out what you like.  It covers things like... what you want to do, what you like sexually if you like toys and lubes, what turns you on, boundaries (on what/shouldn’t be said or done).
  • Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist - https://www.scarleteen.com/sites/files/scarleteen/yesnomaybe.pdf
    • You can either use this as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you go through it together.  Lists like this do not finish lines but starting points: evaluating your own sexuality and/or for deeper conversations with someone else.