Episode 8: Resolving Conflict Part 1

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Kim- intro who I am-MS in Counseling Psychology 

Danny- intro who he is & what he does 

Danny- story about same trick lots of ways & new view on conflict 

Kim- I used to see conflict as a bad thing, I’m a peacemaker 
But now I understand it as a way of bringing glory to God even in the midst of a heated argument 

Danny- some people actually enjoy a good fight. See it as a chance to win

Kim- some like to pursue the conflict while others like to avoid it 
But neither response bring glory to God or strengthens the marriage.., in fact both of these put distance between you 

Danny- the ideal is to be on the same side/same team 
Friends Brad & Tami who use the term “team us!”
We don’t know a lot about sports but this concept makes sense to us. If one wins & other losses= you both lose!

Kim- I have theory that all arguments have to do with unmet expectations 
So the magic way to avoid conflict or prevent a fight is to continuously communicate your expectations to each other. 

Danny- example- let’s go visit your parents 

Kim- speaking of family, I want to talk for a second about a big part of Team us- is not bringing family or friends into the marriage. What I mean is… if I run to my mom when we have a fight,…. Reconciliation 

Danny- close 
Next time, we are going to continue this conversation on conflict & ways you can be prepared & even ways to help you get rid of unnecessary cards you are using in your marriage. See ya