Episode 5: Read Your Spouse's Mind
- Author
- Danny Ray and Kimberly
- Published
- Thu 15 Sep 2022
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The best mind readers study body language, have an uncanny ability to observe the smallest details, gather information surreptitiously, ask the right questions, and listen to everything. An old joke among mentalists (those who supposedly read minds) goes like this: you know it’s bad when you have to put your glasses on to read someone’s mind.
Information Is the Key
1. Ask Questions
Sometimes, even mind readers can make mistakes or misread the information they have gathered. The key to being right is to collect more information so you can be more accurate. Questions are the key to get- ting information, and information is the key to mind reading. You might ask questions such as these: Which coworker do I need to make disappear permanently? Seems like you had a rough day. Do you want to talk about it? A year from now, what do you think will be funny about this day? Was the entire day terrible? Questions are a way to continue the conversation, and they give you the opportunity to gather more information.
2. Listen
When she says, “I’m exhausted!” you could say, “Tell me about it,” and then listen. Don’t try to fix the problem. Don’t make excuses for her coworkers. Don’t give her solutions on how she could handle herself better next time. Nope. Only listen. 3. Remember Expectations Part of what makes the mentalist’s work easy is that the audience is expecting him or her to dazzle them with their skill. Every little observed detail adds to the expectation and leaves the audience with greater awe. In the same way, knowing your spouse’s expectations helps avoid unnecessary tension between the two of you and positions you to serve her real needs, not her perceived needs.
3. Remember Expectations
Part of what makes the mentalist’s work easy is that the audience is expecting him or her to dazzle them with their skill. Every little observed detail adds to the expectation and leaves the audience with greater awe. In the same way, knowing your spouse’s expectations helps avoid unnecessary tension between the two of you and positions you to serve her real needs, not her perceived needs.
