Episode 12: Escaping the Traps of Social Media in Your Marriage

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Podcast #12- Escaping Traps of Social Media

Intro- I am a professional magician and a pastor.
I am working towards my license as a Marriage and Family Therapist.

K- As a magician, tell us about trap doors and what does that have to do with social media 

D- discuss trap doors in magic
-discuss trap doors in marriages (social media)

K- some of the dangers and pitfalls=
-comparison, jealousy
bottom line- the quickest way to lose joy is to compare our lives and marriages to someone else. 
Plate spinning- something is always dropping, you just don’t see it
-the antidote for comparison is to learn to be at peace
-to be thankful
-to be content

D- another trap door is the amount of time spent or wasted on social media
-I can’t give you that time limit
-but if we are on earth for a limited time, maybe ask yourself if you are investing your time well

K- another trap door is about what we post on social media
-talking about asking permission before posting
-we are more comfortable now than we used to be, but we still try to ask for permission before posting

D- self-deception
-are you deceiving your self and thinking social media is not affecting you
-are you on your phone a lot, while your spouse sits in the same room longing for your attention?

K- along those same lines, the battle for our focus is fierce! 
-date nights- where I sit, set up expectations about phones
-choose to be distraction free

Closing- social media can be a blessing and a curse.
-a space to keep up with friends, but it is not a space to air your marriage secrets
Encourage you to talk with each other about any concerns either of you have about using social media. 
-Dont be defensive if they ask you to cut back or to not post certain things! Heat that they are actually saying I like you and I want to spend time with you!