How to Maintain Peace in Your Heart

🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

2022. 10. 09

🔹Question: I'm very honored to ask the question, and thank you very much. In June of this year, my dad passed away. We installed a memorial tree and a memorial bench in the honor of my dad to help my grieving mom. My dad was cremated. At the time, we didn't know what to do with his ashes. Recently, my mom wanted to bury his ashes to a cemetery. So, I asked all my siblings sending out an email if they would like to share the cost of the burial. All of our four siblings are financially stable. One of my sisters got angry and said, "We did the memorial tree and the bench. Why do we have to share the burial cost? This seems like an endless cost. This is very burdening on me!" She said "Budam" in Korean. I said to my sister, "If you feel that way, you don't have to." There was tension in the conversation. Since then, she hasn't contacted my mom or called her who is grieving. Currently, I am a student of Jungto Buddhism Course, and I've learned what you said about knowing the truth. The truth is that my sister and I are different. I have found some peace in that, but I don't have peace some days. It's like a seesaw. Some days, I have peace, and other days, I'm angry and sad. So, I ask for your guidance in having peace in my heart.

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