This episode is for the woman struggling with infertility as well as her friends who wish to support her. As with every trial we face in life, there are lies that crop up which hinder you from overcoming the trial with grace and peace. Listen in while I address several lies that women struggling with infertility may be believing and while I get really honest with you about a few of the lies that were personally hard for me to deal with.

SHOW NOTES:

I. ACKNOWLEDGE THE EMOTIONS

Grief, guilt, anger, shame, etc

Only when you identify what you’re feeling, can you then determine why you’re feeling that way. Behind many of your feelings may be some lies that need to be addressed.

II. COMBATING THE LIES 

1. Children are a requirement to be a good Christian
   • There are two passages that I incorrectly felt shame from.
     1. Psalm 127:3-5 “ Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.”
        1. This verse states that children are a blessing from God. 
        2. This verse does NOT state that He requires you to have children. 
     2. Gen 1:28 “And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
        1. Backup to verse 27. He is your Creator. He made you exactly as you are.
        2. God is sovereign over your ability to have children, so you are not disobedient if His perfect design for you is to not be able to have biological children.
2. The whole purpose of my marriage was to have children.
   • Genesis 2:18 “It is not good that the man should be alone.” 
     1. The Bible does not state that the purpose of marriage is procreation.
     2. Yes, the Bible explicitly states that sex is only for a married couple, but you do not get married so you can have sex.
     3. God’s stated reason for creating Eve was companionship for Adam.
   • Ephesians 5:22-33 “‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the Church.” (vs 31-32)
     1. God designed marriage to also be a picture of Christ’s relationship to the church
3. It’s my fault or it’s my husband’s fault, biologically. 
   • Realign your abilities verses God’s character.
   • God designed you and controls each aspect of your health.
     1. Psalm 139:13 “For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb”
     2. Deut 32:39 “See now that I, even I, am he, and there is no god beside me; I kill and I make alive; I wound and I heal; and there is none that can deliver out of my hand.”
   • You have no control over your DNA or the course of your health
     1. Matthew 6:27 “And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?”
     2. Proverbs 19:21 “Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the LORD that will stand”
4. God is angry with me. Or I’ve sinned, so God is punishing me. 
   • Misused scripture:
     1. Psalm 84:11 "For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor. No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly.”
     2. Romans 8:28 “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
   • Correct view of God:
     1. God is love. “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows&