647: Dr. Valerie Fridland | Building Connections Through Linguistics

To some degree we all hold a linguistic bias, but if we can learn what they are in ourselves and others, it could help us build better relationships. Dr. Valerie Fridland is Professor of sociolinguistics at the University of Nevada. An expert on the relationship between language and society, her work has appeared in numerous academic journals and scholarly collections.
She is co-author of the book, Sociophonetics and lead editor of three volumes on Western states English. Her language blog, Language in the Wild, is featured on Psychology Today, and her lecture series, Language and Society, is available from The Great Courses. She is also working on her first book for a popular audience, I Hate When You Say That!
Let’s dive right in and learn from the expert how we can build connections by understanding linguistics.
Things you will learn in this episode: 
[00:01 - 04:23] Opening Segment  

I introduce today’s guest, Dr. Valerie Fridland

Valerie gives a bit of her background 

Daughter to French speaking parents 

Aware of the social significance of language

Getting a PhD in linguistics

[04:24 - 24:43] Building Connections Through Linguistics

The role language plays in your surroundings

Making people feel more connected 

Classifying yourself 

Costing you jobs and judgeships 

The importance of understanding how linguistics works

There is not a wrong or right way 

Where linguistic bias originated

Power and prestige

The way you react to speech 

Practical ways we can connect without linguist bias

Example through fill-pauses: Ums and uhs 

Get to know your linguistic style

The example of ‘like’

A word from our Sponsor 

[24:44 - 41:12] Building Your Network

Who you know, or what you know?

The what is important as a professor 

Who you know is vital to building a business 

Valerie uses me as an example for a linguistic test

What to do with linguistic information

Revealing who they spend the most time with

A connection that has impacted Valerie’s path

An embarrassing moment that led to something significant

The importance of mentors in Valerie’s experience

Always building off of other people 

Asking, What can I learn? 

Valerie’s number one networking tip

Be genuine

Build relationships not transactions

[41:13 - 48:27] Closing Segment

ThE RaNdOm RoUnD

How to engage with Valerie

Links below 

Final words 

Tweetable Quotes: 
“The thing we learn growing up about languages is that there’s a right way to speak it and a wrong way to speak it and that’s the biggest fallacy that’s out there…” - Dr. Valerie Fridland 
“I can’t imagine any job or field, or even life situation, where having someone walk in those shoes, before you, isn’t helpful… Everything I do builds on something that someone else did.” - Dr. Valerie Fridland
Resources Mentioned:
 

Language Log

Lexicon Valley

Psychology Today

Connect and engage with Dr. Fridland on https://www.valeriefridland.com/ and learn more interesting facts about linguistics in our daily lives. 

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