This Is Why He Killed Himself
This Is Why He Killed Himself is a raw, unfiltered podcast that explores the silent struggles of men in their 40s and 50s. From identity loss and divorce to emotional suppression and physical decline.
Hosted by Jay Alderton, each episode exposes the real reasons behind male suicide and what we can do about it.
No fluff. No filters. Just honest talk for the men who look “fine” but feel like they’re falling apart.
This isn’t about death, it’s about giving men a reason to stay.
- Update frequency
- every day
- Average duration
- 11 minutes
- Episodes
- 10
- Years Active
- 2025
Episode 10 - Society Still Doesn’t Know How to Help Men
We’ve spent nine episodes unpacking the pain men carry.
Now it’s time to confront the bigger problem:
The world still isn’t built to help men through it.
In this final episode, we get brutally honest ab…
Episode 9 - The Medical Blind Spot
When was the last time you went to the doctor… before something broke?
In this episode, we explore men's deadly habit of ignoring warning signs physically, mentally, and emotionally, until it’s too la…
Episode 8 - Silent Suicidality
He seemed fine.
No signs. No breakdown. No drama.
And then one day, he was gone.
In this episode, we confront the reality of silent suicidality, the kind of pain that hides behind a smile, a routine, a …
Episode 7 - The Body Becomes a Battleground
There’s a moment in every man’s 40s when his body starts to change, and it hits harder than anyone prepares you for.
In this episode, we unpack:
- The slow, quiet decline of strength, energy, and drive
- Ho…
Episode 6 - Divorce, Separation & Losing Purpose
What happens when the life you built, marriage, family, identity, suddenly collapses?
In this episode, we explore what no one talks about:
- The quiet devastation of separation
- The loss of identity when y…
Episode 5 - Coping with the Wrong Tools
When life gets hard, most men don’t open up.
They shut down.
In this episode, we unpack the coping tools men reach for when the pain feels too much.
Alcohol, overwork, scrolling, porn, gambling...
Not be…
Episode 4 - Financial Stress & Identity Crisis
If you’ve ever felt like less of a man because of money…
If your self-worth sinks when your bank balance does…
If you've ever sat in your car thinking, “What am I even doing this for?”
this episode is f…
Episode 3 - Lack of Close Friendships
“I don’t really have any close friends anymore.”
Not in a dramatic way. Just… quietly true.
In this episode, we explore the silent epidemic of male loneliness in midlife and how men in their 40s often …
Episode 2 - Stoicism & Social Conditioning
“Man up.”
“Don’t be soft.”
“Keep it together.”
Most men in their 40s were raised on these phrases. They were meant to toughen us up… but instead, they taught us to shut down.
In this episode, we dig into…
Episode 1 - The ‘Pressure Sandwich’ Effect
"I feel like I’m being crushed from both sides."
Welcome to This Is Why He Killed Himself
A podcast about the silent struggles men face in midlife.
In this first episode, we unpack The Pressure Sandwich…