036_ Why Not Accept Reality Just As It Is?

In this week’s episode Lar and I talk about the key to living a life of present joy which  ultimately is unconditional happiness. That key is to accept  present moment reality just as it is, in whatever form it shows up, regardless of circumstance. .

Isn’t that really what we all want? To be okay with whatever happens? It’s happening anyway. Our resistance to it only clouds our ability to see with clarity. But more than that, when we don’t accept it because we think we want something else, we don’t feel good. 
Our happiness eludes us. We’ve got happiness attached to an imaginary future that isn’t real.
We meet each moment either with love or fear. Love accepts. Fear resists.
Take a check for yourself. 

Reality is  what happening right here, right now. It is not our thoughts about it. Or our reactions to it. Those can either be in concert with the Flow of life or in resistance to it. The dance is to see where we get in our own way of experiencing present joy, and to choose to let go in favor of acceptance. 

Most of us have it upside-down. We hold a set of beliefs of how things should go, how people should behave and what should happen, which we have determined need to happen for us to feel good in our current circumstances. And then we expect life to give us that or we’ll withhold our love from the moment we’re in, thinking it should be different than it is. These judgement make acceptance seem impossible. 

It is what it is. That statement, as cliché as it might seem, is still the way of it. Life is brand new each moment. That is reality. 

Reality is the actuality of what is happening right now in the current moment, just as it is. 
Accepting our current circumstance is the way we find what is true for us. If we experience joy and peace we are in concert with the nature of our being.  We’re in the flow. 

If we want to say YES to life, we must accept that there are energetic, life-giving forces beyond what we have a grasp on, that bringing this particular set of circumstances, in this moment, just for us. It let’s us see that every experience, and person is a gift for us to experience the love we are. And if need be, to let go of the beliefs we have that get in the way of receiving that gift and becoming a part of extending it. 

We’re not in control of the particular set of circumstances. There are innumerable energetic forces, ideas, desires, fears and love’s that make up the world as it unfolds moment to moment. What shows up in the moment before each of us is where we have a chance to effect our experience. 
Will we accept, so we can love and enjoy the experience we’re given? Or will we resist, letting fear or judgement define the moment the same way we’ve been doing in the past, which hasn’t made us happy?

When we experience resistance it is because we have a belief we’ve drug in from the past about what are the acceptable circumstances for us to be okay with what’s happening. 
We are in a constant energetic conversation with life itself. Whatever is showing up in each of our lives, we’ve actually invited on some energetic level, or it would not be happening. 

We have to first be honest with ourselves. Now we can be present with another. Our presence is our greatest gift. This is love. Nothing can break love.  

It’s never about the other person. What I am experiencing is always my responsibility. We are free to love, or judge or blame, but only acceptance and love will set my joy free. So I can see the situation with fresh eyes. 

We only get what we give. The gift is in the giving. It feels yummy to love. It feels icky to judge. 

Reality is simple. It’s  what’s happening in this moment, undefined by us. It is never a mental game, although we can make a game of letting go of our resistance to what’s happening and opening our mind