005_What's Up with our Relationship with Relationships?

In today's episode, we explore the dynamics of relationships. We're questioning the very notion that maintenance is necessary for what is true. 

How many of our relationships are authentic, present connection relationships versus conforming to social norms, familial conditioning, or unspoken rules? 
If we take an honest look at the relationships in our lives, how many of them are laced with obligation, anxiety, or guilt, or something besides immediate joy in connecting. 
Are we in them because we think we'getting something, which the trade of our effort or attention will ultimately make it worth it? Are we holding on when we're not happy, but don't want to feel like an asshole if say goodbye or no? 

We have these beliefs about what relationships are about and what is necessary to maintain them. We label and define and put them in imaginary boxes: Romantic, acquaintance, friendship, colleague, best friend, etc. Then we adopt the unwritten rules for that type of relationship and proceed to follow those cultural norms and make ourselves feel guilty if we don't conform. 

Can we be willing, to be honest with ourselves about what is really happening in any situation with another and if it doesn't feel yummy and inviting, to question what we're up to. 
Are we trying to get something we think they can give us? Are we maintaining or fostering a relationship that is less than honest and presently authentic because we believe we should - that's what good friends or family members do or some other belief... 
Is there a resistance to questioning what's up with our relationships that feel burdened or obligatory or anxious. 

Does true, authentic connection need anything more? Does how long we've known someone really means more than an immediate, present moment connection?