Episode 86: Attached by Amir Levine - Attach To Your Values!

Discussion Topic: If you want security, attach to your values!

Book Title: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

Welcome back to YOML: A Year of Magical Learning podcast! In this episode, the hosts dive into 'Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love' by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. They explore the three primary attachment styles—secure, anxious, and avoidant—and discuss how these impact relationships. The conversation further delves into reflections on how aligning with one's core values can help achieve secure attachment. Tune in for an engaging discussion on the science of attachment and personal growth.

00:00 Welcome to YOML Podcast

00:23 Introduction to 'Attached' by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

00:50 Understanding Attachment Styles

01:29 The Dynamics of Anxious and Avoidant Relationships

03:03 Reflections on Attachment and Personal Values

05:50 The Journey to Secure Attachment

07:52 Personal Stories and Impact of 'Attached'

11:11 The Importance of Knowing Yourself

18:09 The Manic States of Famous Artists

18:26 The Importance of Security in Relationships

19:06 The Appeal of Anxious and Avoidant Behaviors

20:30 Statistics and Their Questionable Origins

23:22 The Problem with Taking Things at Face Value

25:40 Finding Personal Joy and Values

32:24 The Futility of Arguments and Aligning Values

33:00 Final Thoughts and Reflections

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