Why Nice Guys Struggle in Relationships | Addison Shock on Modern Masculinity
- Author
- Jennifer Briggs
- Published
- Thu 03 Oct 2024
- Episode Link
- None
"So many partnerships are the mother and the little boy dynamic, and I was in that. That was like a huge reason of the collapse of a nine-year relationship. Part of what contributes to this issue is that question that we just asked, 'What do I do as a woman to help the man in my life?' And I just want to say that is 100% not the responsibility of the woman. They're responsible for their own emotional landscape. And two, that does further perpetuate in some way, how women seek in a crafty way to get the man in their life to be in his masculine energy.
Women are shrewd, crafty and smart, it's a gift! But also as crafty as you think you are, the man is definitely sniffing that out. And what that most often is going to do is cause him to shut down because he doesn't want to be mothered. When he feels that, he responds like an ashamed little boy and shuts down.
Women have told me they don't feel like the man in their life listens, or wants to please them, and I'd say it's the exact opposite. They deeply desire to please and deeply want to show up for and care for, but so often that opportunity gets taken from them because there's an overly masculine energy. The men feel, 'No matter what I do, it's wrong, so I'm not even going to try anymore.'"
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CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction
07:57 Expressing Anger
12:09 Personal Growth and Learning to Forgive
24:50 Navigating Masculinity in a Changing Society
34:15 The Importance of Men Finding Their Voice
41:00 Women Trusting Their Feminine Energy
46:56 Inviting Needs with Love
54:41 Dynamics of Masculine and Feminine Energies
58:02 Balancing Feminine and Masculine Energy in Business
01:00:42 Creating Safety and Trust in Relationships
01:05:33 Inviting Men to Seek Support
01:07:10 Shifting Dynamics in Relationships
01:10:15 The Power of Encouragement
01:11:02 Vulnerably Communicating Needs
01:15:22 Navigating Isolation, Anger, and Anxiousness
01:18:45 How to Connect with Addison
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Addison Shock has worked in human development spaces for over 15 years. He is a Couples & Individuals Counselor as well as a Life Coach for men. For over 10 years, he’s supported men who are navigating anger, anxiety, relationship issues, lack of direction and the various pains of life. His goal is to help them develop emotional capacity, relational intimacy, healthy expressions of anger and sadness and support in developing a more calm, stable life that is good for them and the ones they love most.
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