Episode 325: I’m stronger than ever—so why don’t I Iove my body yet?

Have you ever thought, “I’m doing all the right things—training consistently, eating well, managing stress—but I still don’t love how I look?”

If that sounds familiar, this Ep is for you girl.

I had this exact conversation with a woman at The Elegant Edge recently. She’s the strongest and healthiest she’s ever been—her body can do what she wants it to—but she still doesn’t feel confident or happy with how she looks.

So, what’s the missing piece? In This EP, we’ll dive deep into the Body Pyramid I teach in Warrior School—a framework for building a body you love by focusing on Health, Performance, and Aesthetics (in that order). Most women skip straight to chasing the "look" without fully committing to the foundation. Spoiler: it doesn’t work that way.

In today’s jam, I’ll explain why aesthetics are the byproduct of health and performance—and why building a body you love is about doing the right things better, not just doing more. This is about taking the long way home, building the foundation, training with elegance and intensity, and rewiring your mindset to create sustainable transformation.

Key Take Aways

• Building a body you love requires a solid foundation of health and performance before aesthetics can naturally emerge as a byproduct.


• Many women who train consistently and eat well still struggle with body dissatisfaction because they focus solely on aesthetics instead of the base of the pyramid: health and performance.


• Achieving significant body composition changes is a long-term process that often takes 2-5 years of consistent effort and intentional practice.


• Progress isn’t about doing more; it’s about doing the right things better, such as refining nourishment, recovery, stress management, and training intensity.


• Mindset plays a crucial role in transformation, as managing fears, stories, and limiting beliefs is as important as the physical work.


• Success often requires support from a team or coach to guide you effectively and ensure you stay on the right path toward your goals.

Quote:

• "Body composition isn’t something we can force; it’s a byproduct of health and performance."


• "Many women chase the top of the pyramid— aesthetics—without fully committing to building the base of health and performance."


• "It’s not about doing more; it’s about doing the right things better."


• "Building a body you love takes time: a year to build your foundation, a year to train with elegance and intensity, and sometimes years to achieve the transformation you envision."


• "We come for the training, but we stay for the mindset."


• "Focus on the practice and process, and as a byproduct, your body will change."


• "You can’t do it all alone; you need a team to help you achieve your goals."

If you’ve ever felt stuck, frustrated, or like your body doesn’t reflect the effort you’re putting in, this episode will give you clarity, perspective, and the tools to move forward. It’s not about doing more; it’s about doing better.

Let’s reframe the way you think about your body and the work it takes to create a body you love.

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