123: Self-Care -It's Not What You Think

Episode Summary: In this special solo episode, Janell goes beyond the common clichés of self-care—bubble baths and spa days—to explore the deeper, mindset-driven reasons why we often struggle to consistently practice self-care. Learn how limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, shame, and the disconnect from true self-love prevent us from taking care of ourselves, and discover practical ways to shift these patterns for lasting transformation.

Key Takeaways:

• Self-care is much more than indulgences—it’s rooted in your mindset, beliefs, and self-talk.

• True transformation and consistency in self-care come from feeling good, not from punishing yourself into change.

• Identifying and reframing limiting beliefs about self-care and self-worth is critical for lasting habits.

• Shame is a powerful obstacle to change; it must be addressed with vulnerability and openness.

• Simple, small, consistent actions are the foundation of meaningful self-care.

Insights from Janell:

• Real self-care involves consistently choosing actions that support your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

• Your negative beliefs about self-care (e.g., “it’s selfish” or “there’s no time”) directly prevent you from prioritizing it.

• Change driven by self-love and compassion is far more sustainable and fulfilling than change driven by self-criticism and shame.

Actionable Advice:

• Practice daily gratitude to shift your mindset toward positivity and abundance.

• Keep at least one small promise to yourself daily to build confidence and momentum.

• Regularly acknowledge and celebrate your progress and small wins in self-care.

• Ask yourself daily, “What would my future self thank me for?” and act accordingly.

• Surround yourself with supportive messages, books, and people who reinforce your commitment to self-care.

Quotes:

• “We change by feeling good, not by feeling bad.” – Janell Yule

• “Until you shift your beliefs and thoughts, you will not implement what you know about self-care.” – Janell Yule

• “Shame is poison because it attacks the part of you that believes you actually can create lasting change.” – Janell Yule

• “You can love yourself and your body while still wanting to improve. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.” – Janell Yule

Call to Action:

• Identify one small, manageable self-care practice you can consistently commit to each day. Celebrate your progress and let it fuel more positive actions.