Ep 183 The Hidden Secrets Behind Why Your Relationships Keep Failing (And How to Fix Them)

Ever wonder why you keep finding yourself in the same toxic relationships despite your best efforts to choose better partners or friends? The answer might surprise you.

Revolutionary recovery expert TJ Woodward joins Lindsay Miller to reveal why addressing toxic relationships requires an inside-out approach rather than simply removing "toxic people" from your life. With profound compassion and clarity, TJ explains how our earliest experiences form core false beliefs that unconsciously drive our relationship choices well into adulthood.

"We must heal the toxicity within first before we start working on our relationships," TJ shares, offering a refreshing perspective that empowers rather than blames. When we recognize that we're not broken—just carrying false beliefs about our worthiness—we can begin the transformative journey of reconnecting with our essential wholeness.

Through personal stories and practical wisdom, TJ illuminates how seemingly unrelated childhood experiences become templates for adult relationships. From feeling abandoned in his crib as a toddler to desperately seeking love as an adult while simultaneously choosing unavailable partners, he demonstrates how these patterns operate below our conscious awareness.

The conversation moves beyond superficial advice about "cutting toxic people out" to explore how we can gently re-parent ourselves, heal generational trauma, and shift from victim consciousness to creator consciousness. As TJ beautifully articulates, "When we start to cultivate a relationship with our wholeness, we start to see that everywhere."

Whether you're struggling with difficult relationships, wondering why certain patterns keep repeating in your life, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of human connection, this episode offers transformative insights that will forever change how you view yourself and your relationships.

To learn more about TJ or to order his books visit his website TJWoodward.com

Lindsay Miller is a distinguished kids mindfulness coach, mindfulness educator and host of The Stress Nanny Podcast. She is known for her suitcase tricks and playful laugh. When she's not cheering on her daughter or rollerblading on local trails with her husband, you can find her using her 20+ years of child development study and mindfulness certification to dream up new ways to get kids excited about deep breathing. Having been featured on numerous podcasts, platforms and publications, Lindsay’s words of wisdom are high impact and leave a lasting impression wherever she goes.

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