The Science of Being Stuck: When It Helps and When It Hurts with Britt Frank

Key takeaways:

• Stuckness isn’t a character flaw—it’s a nervous system response designed to protect you.
• Asking “Why am I like this?” often reinforces paralysis. Ask instead: “What small yes can I offer myself right now?”
• Micro-yeses—tiny, manageable actions—help bypass overwhelm and gently re-engage the brain.
• Your brain’s safety system (fight, flight, freeze) will override logic when it perceives a threat—even if that threat is emotional or invisible.
• Internal Family Systems (IFS) shows us that even our most sabotaging behaviours come from protective parts with good intentions.
• Unprocessed grief is often hidden beneath stuckness—learning to grieve (not just loss, but change) is key to healing.
• Letting go of your agenda (especially in relationships or therapy) can create space for authentic change.
• Tools like body doubling and pattern disruption are simple, effective, and backed by neuroscience.
• Assume your brain is on your side—even if it’s not doing what you want right now.

Connect with Britt Frank:

Website - https://www.brittfrank.com/
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LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/brittfrankmsw/

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