ADHD Self-Doubt: How to Stop Chasing External Answers and Do What Works

🎧 ADHD Self-Doubt – How to Stop Chasing External Answers and Do What Works

If you're an ADHD woman who's ever thought, "Maybe I just need one more course, one more expert, one more answer to finally figure it all out," you're not alone—and this episode is for you.

In this raw, eye-opening conversation, Jen shares her personal journey through self-doubt, perfectionism, and a $55,000 wake-up call that exposed just how much she had been outsourcing her power. From over-functioning to over-spending in search of external solutions, she breaks down how even high-achieving ADHD women can fall into the trap of thinking someone else must know better.

You’ll learn:

• Why ADHD women are conditioned to look outside themselves for answers


• How masking and people-pleasing erode self-trust and inner clarity


• What it really means to connect with your inner wisdom (and why it’s essential for success)


• Two simple but powerful practices to begin rebuilding self-trust and reconnecting with your creativity and confidence today

Whether you're navigating business, career, or personal growth with ADHD, this episode will help you pause, reflect, and remember that you already have wisdom inside you—you just haven’t been taught how to listen to it yet.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: The exhausting cycle of seeking answers

3:20 – A personal story of self-doubt and high achievement

7:45 – $55,000 later: what didn’t work and why

14:10 – Why ADHD women are taught to distrust themselves

18:05 – The emotional cost of masking and fitting in

24:30 – Naming your self-doubt and validating your experience

29:55 – Two tools to reconnect with inner wisdom

33:20 – How silence and stream-of-consciousness writing unlock clarity

38:00 – Wrapping up and an invitation to deepen your work

Mentioned in this episode:

→ ASCEND: The ADHD Women’s Mastery Program – A powerful program for ADHD women who are ready to stop coping and start leading with clarity, confidence, and sustainable strategies. Includes 1:1 coaching, small group support, and grounded growth frameworks.

Learn more here and enroll:  https://jenbarnes.org/the-adhd-women-entrepreneurs-mastery-program/

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