Why Marriage Feels So Hard: Stage 4

Here's why your marriage feels so hard right now—and how to begin fixing it. Every couple struggles—but not every couple understands why. In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode of A Wise Woman’s Guide, Dr. Debi unpacks the four distinct stages couples go through before they seek help—and why the real issue often begins long before the conflict ever starts. From disconnection and misunderstanding to the root cause so many overlook—you’ll gain clarity, comfort, and a clear path forward.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “Why does he shut down when I try to talk?”


• “Why is she always upset, even when I think I’m doing my best?”


• “Why does it feel like we’re drifting apart?”

…then this episode is for you.

Drawing on decades of experience in couples psychology, Dr. Debi helps you recognize the cultural and biological differences between men and women that shape how we think, feel, and communicate in marriage. It’s not about blame—it’s about understanding. And once you understand the root, you can start healing the rest.

You’ll learn:

• Why conflict is usually the end result—not the beginning


• What really causes disconnection (and how to repair it)


• How misunderstanding grows


• Why we approach emotions, language, and intimacy so differently


• How appreciating your differences helps you build trust and connection

Whether you're in Stage 1 or stuck in Stage 4, there's hope.

✨ Listen now to discover how understanding gender differences can change everything. Because a stronger, more connected marriage is possible.

GRAB THE GUIDES ► https://www.awisewomansguide.com/free

►► Ask Dr. Debi AI your #1 Relationship Question right now: https://www.awisewomansguide.com/drdebiai

Explore the Psychology of Men, Women, and Marriage. Discover simple facts about what works, what doesn't, and why. Learn what it means to value women and respect men. I never favor one sex over the other. Because that would be counterproductive! As a former Professor and Couple's Psychologist, I am definitely not a sexist. And although I love helping women get what they want, I am not a feminist either. I am best described as a pragmatist who recognizes and honors the fact that men and women are different by design ... and I freely share what I have learned about intimate relationships with the opposite sex ... because your success matters to me!

#awisewomansguide #relationshippodcast #marriageadvice #whatwomenwant #understandingmen

DISCLAIMER: The information provided in this video is for educational purposes only. It is not intended to replace a professional evaluation or treatment for emotional and relational concerns. If you are experiencing severe distress or believe you may be a victim of domestic violence, please contact a licensed mental health professional for assistance. If you are experiencing a life-threatening emergency, please call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.