#45 Why You’ve Outgrown What Used to Work (And What to Do Next)

If you’ve felt stuck in strategies that once worked, but now feel limiting — this episode is your permission slip. You’re not broken. You’re expanding. And you don’t need to shrink to stay safe.

You know what used to work.

The planner, the habits, the schedule, the mindset. The way you showed up for others. The way you held it all together. It served you — maybe even saved you — in a past season.

But now? It feels heavy. Like it doesn’t fit anymore.

In this episode of Identity-Level Recalibration, Julie Holly speaks directly to high-capacity humans who are starting to feel the discomfort of growth. When you’re still showing up with strategies that helped you survive — but now you’re being called to thrive — the friction can feel confusing. Even painful.

This episode helps you name what’s happening.

You’ll learn how to honor what worked in the past, while releasing it with love — so you can step into the identity that’s calling you forward. You’ll hear real-life recalibrations from Julie’s story and from country music artist Miranda Lambert, who had to let go of expectations to reclaim her truth.

You’ll also get a simple, identity-aligned Micro Recalibration to put into practice today — with a leadership lens to extend the impact to your team or family.

You’re not too much.
You’re just becoming more than you’ve ever been.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why strategies that once worked might now be slowing you down
• How perfectionism and over-functioning can signal identity friction
• The difference between guilt and gratitude when outgrowing your past
• Miranda Lambert’s recalibration story — and what it reveals about permission and purpose
• Why you don’t need a new system — you need a new source
• The truth behind what feels like failure, but is really expansion
  
  

Today’s Micro Recalibration:

Ask yourself:

• What’s one tool, strategy, or mindset I’ve outgrown — even if it used to work?
• Where am I trying to “carry” a version of myself that no longer fits?
• What would releasing that with gratitude — not guilt — look like today?
  
  

Then take one small step:
Let go of something that no longer fits.
Make space for the identity you’re becoming.

If you lead others:
Where might you be expecting your team (or family) to operate from an outdated playbook? Share what you’re letting go of — and invite them into the expansion, too.

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