#35 How Your Self-Talk Shapes Who You’re Becoming

High-capacity humans don’t always realize it — but their inner voice is shaping who they become. This episode shows how self-talk becomes identity, and how to shift it without shame.

Self-talk isn’t just personal — it’s powerful. In this episode of Identity-Level Recalibration, Julie Holly unpacks how the language we use inside becomes the foundation of who we’re becoming. You’ll learn the neuroscience behind self-talk, the leadership ripple effect of internal tone, and how to build a feedback loop aligned with your future identity. With a story from Simone Biles, a micro-recalibration you can apply today, and an invitation to lead yourself with clarity and compassion — this episode helps you interrupt the loop and recalibrate at the root.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER:

• How your self-talk creates internal identity feedback loops
• Why high-capacity humans often default to internal pressure
• A story of personal recalibration during a high-growth season
• How Simone Biles modeled real-time self-leadership on the world stage
• The neuroscience of belief reinforcement through language
• What true self-leadership looks like in daily life
• A powerful extension for leaders who shape team culture
• How to begin interrupting the loop without shame

TODAY’S MICRO-RECALIBRATION

Notice your self-talk — and ask:
Would I speak this way to someone I love?
Is this reinforcing who I was — or who I’m becoming?
What language feels honest and aligned?

If you lead a team:
How does your tone with yourself ripple into how others speak to themselves?

You don’t have to master this overnight.
You just need to begin interrupting the loop.

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