#28 Why You Struggle to Stay Consistent (and How to Fix It)

If you’re tired of starting over, this episode explains why your struggle isn’t about discipline — it’s about identity. Learn why habits won’t hold if they aren’t built on who you actually believe you are.

You don’t have a consistency problem — you have an identity gap. This episode explains why habit stacks and morning routines only work when they’re rooted in who you believe you are. You’ll learn why your nervous system resists change, how identity-level misalignment sabotages even your best efforts, and how small calibrated shifts create sustainable momentum. Includes a personal story, science-backed insight, and a powerful micro-recalibration.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why habit hacks don’t stick without identity alignment
  
  
• How your nervous system rejects misaligned routines (even if they’re good)
  
  
• What makes ILR different from Atomic Habits-style behavior models
  
  
• Why starting over doesn’t mean failure — it means misalignment
  
  
• Julie’s behind-the-scenes story of building this podcast from calibrated energy
  
  
• What Jerry Seinfeld’s “don’t break the chain” method reveals about embodied identity
  
  
• A simple, grounded way to return to your vision without burning out
  
  
  

Today’s Micro-Recalibration
Instead of forcing yourself to “just stick with it,” ask:

• What habit feels heavy right now?
  
  
• Is this rhythm aligned with who I’m becoming?
  
  
• What’s one small, honest shift I can make today that feels like truth — not pressure?
  
  
  

Your consistency doesn’t have to be perfect.
It just has to be real.

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