#26 Why You Default to Overgiving or Overworking

If you keep slipping into patterns you thought you outgrew—this episode unpacks why. Learn how your defaults formed, how to shift them, and why small changes work better than pressure.

You’re dependable, high-capacity, and maybe a little tired of being “the one who holds it all.” In this episode, we unpack why you default to overgiving, overthinking, or overworking—and how to rewire from identity, not guilt. Learn how your brain prioritizes survival over alignment, and why your defaults aren't flaws—they’re invitations to recalibrate. Includes a personal story, a founder example, and today’s micro-recalibration to support your shift.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• How overgiving, overworking, and overthinking are not personality traits—they're nervous system defaults
  
  
• Why high performers repeat old patterns even after “doing the inner work”
  
  
• The neuroscience behind survival-mode behavior (and how to rewire it)
  
  
• How to spot the beliefs fueling your default reactions
  
  
• Why small, identity-aligned shifts create lasting transformation
  
  
• Julie’s personal recalibration story from podcasting
  
  
• A founder example of ILR in practice: John Mackey of Whole Foods
  
  
• A micro-recalibration practice to help you stop performing and start realigning
  
  
  

Today’s Micro-Recalibration

Notice the default that still feels familiar—but no longer true.
Ask:

• When I’m stretched, what do I revert to?
• What belief is hiding underneath that behavior?
• What’s one subtle shift I can try next time that aligns with who I’m becoming?

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