WHY YOU ARE ALLOWED TO REGRET HOW LONG YOU STAYED IN YOUR MARRIAGE!

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It's one of the most painful thoughts that haunts us after leaving: "Why did I stay so long?" In this episode, we dive deep into the complex emotions around timing and regret after ending a difficult relationship or marriage.

You'll discover why that voice in your head saying "I should have left sooner" is both completely normal and incredibly unfair to yourself. We explore the invisible forces that keep us tethered—trauma bonds, financial fears, children's needs, societal pressure, and the hope that things will change.

This isn't about beating yourself up for "wasted time." Instead, we'll reframe those years as part of your journey and growth. You'll learn why self-compassion is crucial for healing and how to honor both your survival instincts and your courage to finally leave.

We'll also address the myth of "perfect timing" and why there's never a "right" moment to upend your life. By the end of this episode, you'll understand that your timeline was exactly what it needed to be—and that regret can coexist with pride in your strength.

If you've ever wondered "What took me so long?"—this episode is for you. It's time to release the shame and embrace your resilience.

Topics covered:

• Understanding trauma bonds and why they keep us stuck
• The difference between regret and self-blame
• How to practice self-compassion during healing
• Reframing "lost time" as necessary preparation
• Moving from regret to empowerment.

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