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When Connection Feels Dangerous: How Shame Makes You Disappear

Author
Dr. Anthony Mazzella
Published
Wed 30 Jul 2025
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What if the reason you shut down, disappear, or attack yourself… isn’t weakness, but shame? In this clip with Renee Swanson, we uncover how shame hides behind perfectionism, silence, and even grandiosity—and why naming it is the first step to healing.


To listen to the full interview check out Renee's channel here: 

 https://bleav.com/shows/the-covert-narcissism-podcast/episodes/shame-vs-self-the-invisible-wound-behind-narcissistic-traits/

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