Understanding Fawning: Boundaries and Trauma in Parenting with Luis Mojica

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Ever wondered why setting boundaries feels like an insurmountable challenge as a parent? Join us on the Motherhood Mentor Podcast as we chat with Luis Mojica, a somatic therapist and educator of Holistic Life Navigation about the concept of fawning and its profound impact on motherhood. In this episode, Luis delves into how fawning—an unconscious trauma response—can blur the lines between genuine personality traits and people-pleasing behaviors. Discover how this survival strategy affects your ability to set healthy boundaries and maintain your own well-being.

Key Takeaways:

1. Understanding Fawning:
2. Luis explains fawning as a survival strategy that emerges from past trauma, where people-pleasing behaviors become a way to feel safe or maintain attachment.
3. Learn how fawning can cause moms to overly identify with their children’s experiences while neglecting their own needs and boundaries.
4. Impact on Personal Relationships:
5. Explore how intense fawning affects not only parent-child dynamics but also marriages and friendships.
6. Understand how resentment and anger can be indicators of boundary violations.
7. Generational Trauma:
8. Luis discusses how fawning patterns can perpetuate through generations, especially in families affected by domestic violence.
9. Gain insights into how these patterns can be recognized and addressed to break the cycle of trauma.
10. Practical Strategies:
11. Discover practical strategies for self-attunement and maintaining healthy boundaries.
12. Learn how to reconnect with your body and emotions to better balance your needs with your children’s needs.
13. Nurturing Yourself:
14. Emphasize the importance of self-care and emotional regulation for a healthier family dynamic.
15. Reflect on how nurturing yourself enables you to provide better care and foster resilience within your family.

Episode Highlights:

1. [10:15] What is fawning and how does it manifest in parenting?
2. [25:30] The role of fawning in maintaining safety and attachment in relationships.
3. [40:00] How generational trauma impacts fawning behaviors and family dynamics.
4. [50:45] Strategies for overcoming fawning and setting healthier boundaries.

Additional Resources:
Podcast with Luis on Madison Morrigan podcast

About Luis Mojica:
Luis Mojica is a somatic therapist, trauma nutritionist, and founder of Holistic Life Navigation, where he teaches thousands of people around the world how to recover from stress and trauma. He uses whole foods, self-inquiry, and Somatic Experiencing as tools to find safety within yourself.

Where to find Luis:
Website
Instagram

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