Why we need healthy boundaries and how to set them - Ep. 26

Author and Researcher Brene Brown describes boundaries very simply as ‘what’s ok and what’s not ok’, regardless of the area of your life which you apply these boundaries to.

Boundaries are not about separating ourselves from others, but about respect. By setting boundaries, we show others that we have respect for our time, our emotions, and other areas of our life. And we invite others to have respect for these too.

A lot of us don’t set boundaries for a number of reasons. Perhaps we want to be the perfect partner, parent, friend, or child.  Perhaps we want people to like us. Maybe we don’t want to disappoint anyone, or we might want to be seen as being a certain way (as someone kind and helpful for example). The irony is that the lack of healthy boundaries does not make us perfect in any way. When we fail to set boundaries, we end up saying ‘yes’ to things that we don’t feel ok with. We aren’t being honest with ourselves or with others. In other words, it compromises our integrity. 

In this episode, we look at what boundaries are, the benefits of setting healthy boundaries and how to do just that.

References

In this episode, I refer to Episode 24 - Who are you choosing to be (and how to set personal values). I also refer to Episode 25 - How to avoid spiralling down the exhaustion funnel.

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