The truth about people pleasing - Ep. 46

People pleasing is a tricky one... You see, on the surface, it seems inoffensive. After all, wanting to make others happy is altruistic, generous and selfless, right?

Well, people pleasing isn’t what it seems…While it does seem innocent and sweet, it’s actually not as selfless as you think.

Here are a few tell-tale signs of people pleasing:

You pour your heart into making everyone around you happy, often at the expense of your own needs and happiness.

In exchange, you expect their recognition and gratitude as it makes you feel loved and validated.

But deep down, under the altruistic façade, you feel depleted, exhausted and run down.

You become resentful as you sacrifice yourself pleasing everyone rather than investing in your own wellbeing.

Often, others don’t recognise the extent of your efforts which leaves you feeling undervalued, unappreciated and victimised.

If you have nodded as you read the above, this episode is especially for you.

Have a listen to find out the uncomfortable truth about people pleasing and a few tips to start shifting away from this pattern, recovering your energy and reclaiming your life.

References:

1) Episode 26 - Why we need healthy boundaries and how to set them

2) Join me and a small group of like-minded women on a self-growth journey in my free community: The School Of Me Hub.

As always, if you feel stuck in your life, and you are ready to do this deep work with a compassionate coach, do get in touch at [email protected]. I’d love to support you on this journey of uncovering, accepting and trusting yourself.