EP 14: Why Our Attraction to Dysfunction, Toxicity and Unhealth is Hurting Us with Dr. Alexia Holovatyk

Back with another episode on relationships, and this time, I'm joined by the amazing Dr. Alexia Holovatyk! We dive deep into the mystery of why we're often drawn to those who seem emotionally unavailable. Using the lens of attachment theory, we unpack why these patterns persist and, more importantly, how we can break free to find healthier connections. We chat about the power of self-awareness, making mindful choices, and understanding how our past shapes our present. Plus, we get real about the importance of checking in with ourselves during those nerve-wracking dates. Tune in for some serious relationship wisdom! 

About Alexia Holovatyk
Dr. Alexia Holovatyk is a licensed clinical psychologist with a nearly a decade of experience helping women navigate relationships and identifying the root cause of their attachment issues. She is the founder of Live Well Psychology Group, a private practice located in West Los Angeles, and co-founder of the Self-Healing Toolkit, an integrative online course and community, designed to help women heal from stress and trauma. She is also an advisor to Alurx, a behavioral health app, working to help people develop healthy habits to better cope with stress.

www.livewellpsychologygroup.com
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00:00 Introduction and Topic Reveal

00:24 Understanding Attraction to Unavailable People

02:22 Guest's Perspective on Attraction

03:44 Exploring the Concept of 'Spark' in Relationships

09:19 The Role of Self-Perception in Attraction

12:30 The Impact of Availability in Attraction

14:10 The Fear of Commitment and Its Influence on Attraction

17:51 The Role of Excitement in Attraction

25:27 Understanding the Meaning of 'Boredom' in Relationships

26:54 Understanding the Dynamics of Dating

27:30 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Relationships

28:35 The Layers of Dating and Attraction

32:16 The Role of Environment in Sparking Chemistry

35:43 The Highs and Lows of Toxic Relationships

39:07 The Reality of Love and Relationships

42:56 The Choice and Loss in Commitment

46:40 Navigating the Dating World

49:11 Final Thoughts and Wrap Up

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