Empowering Men to Date the Women of Their Dreams with Emily Freeman

In this episode, Aaron talks with Emily Freeman about supporting and empowering men to go from confused to confident in their dating life.

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SHOW NOTES

:23 Aaron Talks

Dating can be challenging right? There’s so many nuances that you can get caught up in that keep you stuck from just pursuing someone, having fun and enjoying the journey.

For men it can be really challenging on dating apps, first dates, and simply knowing how to attract the kind of women you desire.

So I invited my next guest Emily Freeman, who empowers and inspires driven men to go from confused to confident and find the women of their dreams. 

Emily does such a great job of bringing awareness to what are often common dating frustrations for men.

We talk about green flags to look for in a high quality women, what women are are looking for in dating profiles, pursuing vs chasing, the stories we make up in our head about the person we’re dating, and  some of the underlying issues that keep men from leaning into the relationship they desire..

It’s packed full of good stuff

2:00 min 

• Excited to have you, 
• Aaron has become a fan of Emily

2:40 min

• Why Emily started coaching men
• Dating is deeply personal, Emily wanted to create a safe space for men
• Dating is a complete mirror
• Release shame

5:20 min 

• Women are looking for leadership
• It’s extremely attractive for a man to make decisions
• reducing the polarity of Feminine and masculine energy can reduce attraction 

6:55 min

• The way to be attractive is to know what you want
• Establish self-love to know how to receive a woman’s love
• You have to feel it yourself first, what am I rejecting when it comes to receiving love and affection? 
• When something doesn’t feel familiar we are often not attracted, thats why so many men chase “unavailable”

9:40 min

• Lets talk about the green flag
• What are the green flags in a high quality babe ?
• She knows how to meet her own needs and effectively communicate what she needs and wants
• Boundaries allow a women to be wholly herself while stepping into a partnership
• Laughing is a green flag
• A women who is present at willing to take things slow
• Intensity vs intimacy
• You can’t just ask all the right questions
• Enthusiastically responding to your requests

12:40

• Some men feel like it falls on their shoulders
• Alleviate the pressure by contacting and 
• Another green flag is noticing how she treats other people, how does she handle conflict?

14:24 min

• The mirror for all of those green flags to be reflected back for women
• The anxious attachment can get lost looking for a sign and not being in the actual relationship 

15:45 min

• Aaron Genuinely misses the art of dating romance
• Crawling into love intimacy that happens in 
• Patience is really important

16:20 min

• Confusion around leaning into something vs rushing in to a relationship
• Being cautiously optimistic, with the expectation that you are still getting to know each other

17 min

• People jump too quickly into assuming whether someone is right or wrong for them
• Collecting “datapoint” just taking notice of what’s your 

18:40 min

• Marriage isn’t an expectation anymore it’s a choice
• The head & heart conversation, you can know all of the things but at the end of the day can you just sit down and have a conversation

21:30 min

• Just let what is be
• There’s a lot of fear in dating and thats why they call it “falling into love..”
• The body doesn’t know the difference between anxiety and excitement.. the brain interprets it
• Anxious-excited trap at the end of the day it’s fear

23:30 min

• If you’re not clear on your why then you won’t stay motivated
• Pursue rather than chase

24:35 min

• Indirectly Inviting a women into your world through your dating profile
• Be intentional about who you want to date
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25:30 min

• Women want to know what their lives are going to be like when they see your profile
• Women are sensitive to reading men’s energy

27:30 min 

• Men don’t really fill out their profile, it shows your level of investment
• I want to be attracted to all women and the fear of rejection go hand in hand
• Don’t need to be overly serious, be intentional without taking yourself too seriously

29 min

• What makes a girl head over heals for a dude?
• Be unapologetically who you are
• Be in the energy of “I love who I am. I love my life, and the women who comes into my life is going to love it too. If it’s not you that’s ok. If it is you, how exciting!”
• Women are attracted to men that have a lot of options in life and that his life is full waking up knowing what his mission is.
• Chemistry can’t be calculated
• It’s hard to build chemistry with someone who is stuck in their head

32:30 min 

• What makes a man magnetic who is dude who can get out of his head and being grounded in his body
• Jumping from thought to thought doesn’t make a women feel safe
• Men being present is the most masculine things you can be

34 min 

• Emily teaches being mind, body, and soul expertise to get present
• Cognitive bias will make what you think is true, true 
• If you have a believe that you can’t find a women, it will confirm that you’re right
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36:35 min 

• Put yourself out there. It’s not rejection it’s selection, the more you can face it the less it effects you
• Dating should be fun !
• Creating compassion and fun will help everyone else be open
• Don’t worry about showing her a good time, have a good time for you

Thanks for listening to TKOL Podcast.

Emily inspires driven men to go from confused to confident in their dating lives so they can find the women of their dreams. 

If you want to connect with Emily, here’s where you can find her.

Instagram: 

@emilyfreemancoaching

TikTok:

@emilyfreemancoaching

Website:

Emilyfreemancoaching.com

If you feel trapped in harmful relationship patterns and want to feel free and confident by stepping into your self worth. 

You can connect with me here..

Instagram.com/aarontosti

thekindoflove.com

Thanks for listing to TKOL Podcast

I’m Aaron.

Best of Love to you.