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THE TIES THAT BIND: A KANDID CHAT ON TRAUMA BONDS

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The Kandid Shop Podcast LLC
Published
Fri 05 May 2023
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!CONTENT TRIGGER WARNING!

This episode contains discussions about domestic violence, abuse, and trauma bonding, which may be

triggering to listeners with similar experiences. Please, please, please engage in self-care if you choose to continue to listen.

 

I had the opportunity to have a kandid chat on Trauma Bonding, a prevalent issue experienced by people in abusive relationships.

I was joined for this discussion by two incredible women who shared their insights and perspectives on the subject:

Lianne, the Creator and Host of the Personal Development Podcast: “Watch Us Thrive.”

&

Natasha D’Arcangelo, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Clinical Trauma professional, Certified Compassion Fatigue professional, and educator.

Key Takeaways

  • Trauma bonds are the emotional attachment formed between a person and their abuser which often makes the victim feel compelled to stay in the relationship.
  • Trauma bonds cut across races, ethnicities, cultures, and socioeconomic status -Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • There are different ways a relationship can be abusive that are not physical – Lianne
  • Parents might meet their child’s physical needs but may not meet their emotional needs, causing long-term emotional damage - Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • When a relationship progress very quickly, it is likely a red flag – Lianne
  • The victim may think that the good days outweigh the bad ones, but it will get worse over time, and leaving can be difficult – Lianne
  • You can be in an abusive relationship even if you’re not being physically harmed. Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • Leaving an abusive relationship is the most dangerous time for the victim – Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • It’s best to provide resources and support to those in abusive relationships rather than lecture them to leave -Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • If you’re in an abusive relationship recognize your worth and understand that you deserve better - Natasha D’Arcangelo
  • Detaching and healing from an abusive relationship can start with speaking up and using your voice to take your power back – Lianne
  • It’s not your responsibility to fix an abuser who is broken and needs professional help – Lianne
  • Every person deserves a healthy relationship - Natasha D’Arcangelo

Trauma bonding is a piece of the whole domestic violence situation and everyone’s situation is different. If you’re a victim, reach out to someone for support, whether it’s a professional counselor, domestic violence shelter staff, or friends and family.

RESOURCES: If you or someone you know is in a violent relationship, help is out there:

  • Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
  • Text START to 88788
  • RAINN -Call 800.656.4673
  • Trans Crisis Hotline (888) 843-4564
  • Trevor Project(LGBTQIA+)(866) 488-7386
  • Crisis Text Line: Text START to 741-741

 

 

Guest contact info:

Lianne

https://wutpodcast.com/

https://www.instagram.com/watchusthrivepodcast/

 

Natasha D’archangelo

https://www.linkedin.com/in/natasha-darcangelo/

[email protected] (Not en

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