99 : Suffering is Optional- Byron Katie and The Work

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Episode Pointers:

• Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. The suffering comes in, when we resist what is. Whether it’s the emotion, the circumstance, the relationship, what is. The resistance brings suffering. 

Byron Katie’s 4 questions in “The Work”:

•  Go through a situation in your life that frustrated you or caused you a lot of stress.
•  Replay that as if you were there again, and pay attention to what was causing you the most stress or frustration. 
• Journal this out, and notice the thought that caused you the most stress.
•  Be as childish and judgey as possible  so that you can get clear answers of what was actually happening.
• Apply these 4 questions below

• Is it true?

Sometimes we don’t realize we are even thinking something even though we don’t believe it’s true. When you start to question, you can see how silly it is that you are thinking it, because you don’t actually believe it to be true. 

• Can you absolutely know that it’s true?

Taking a moment to think about and truly ponder if it’s absolutely true, gives you another chance to see if you are being honest and true with yourself.

• How do you react, and what happens when you believe that thought?

This is all about noticing how this thought makes you feel and act. What emotions come up for you? How do you treat those around you? How do you treat yourself? How do you feel that emotion in your body? How might you start to try to numb to hide that emotion?

Recommended Book:  Loving What Is by  Byron Katie

Byron Katie’s Website : www.thework.com

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If you want more tools to help you, I have a workshop called Stop Talking Start Feeling, it’s a workshop that dives into emotions, what they are, and how you can begin to feel and process them and get them out of your body instead of stuffing them down. It also goes specifically into processing and releasing the emotions of guilt and sadness. You can get access to this workshop and all the extra things I have in there for only $27. Go to www.meganhillukka.com/workshop to check it out. 

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