Mind The Gap — The Price Of Not Going After What You Want

Author: JONNIE JENSEN
Published: Fri 15 Aug 2025
Episode Link: https://highvaluemanproject.com

Ever felt that gnawing frustration when you know exactly what you want — but you’re not doing what it takes to get it?

That’s the gap.

And the longer you live there, the more it eats you alive. Your integrity starts to slip, your energy drops, and you wake up wondering if this is all there is.

This episode is for you if you’ve been…

Telling yourself you’ll “get to it” for months (or years)
Stuck in a relationship, job, or lifestyle you didn’t sign up for
Letting other people’s needs override your own goals
Avoiding the hard but necessary actions that would change everything

Let’s go.

WHY THIS IS IMPORTANT

When you know what you want but you’re not moving towards it, life gets heavy.

Resentment builds. Bad habits creep in.

Your partner feels it. Your kids feel it. YOU feel it every single day.

Most men think they have a motivation problem — they don’t.

They have a clarity, courage, and commitment problem. That’s the 3XC Formula.

This is about more than ticking off goals. It’s about becoming the man who’s proud of the face in the mirror… not the one who’s avoiding his own reflection.

JUMP TO THE POINT

[00:00:00] – The real cost of not going after what you want

[00:02:35] – Why the “gap” between desire and action destroys integrity

[00:07:12] – How a BBC drama triggered this episode’s theme

[00:11:50] – The 3XC Formula: bridging the gap with Clarity, Courage, and Commitment

[00:17:03] – Why courage isn’t motivation — and why that matters

[00:22:40] – The price of doing nothing (and why it’s higher than you think)

[00:29:15] – Setting your path: milestones, “who not how,” and building momentum

[00:35:28] – The I Am List: reprogramming your mindset for progress

[00:40:50] – The role of accountability and why your wife can’t be your coach

[00:46:30] – Closing challenge: Where’s your gap? And what’s it costing you?

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