Understanding Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Relationships with Bev Mitelman
- Author
- Andrew Phipps
- Published
- Mon 30 Jun 2025
- Episode Link
- https://rss.com/podcasts/the-intimacy-inquiry/2091612
Understanding Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Relationships with Bev Mitelman
In this insightful episode, guest Bev Mitelman shares her personal journey of growing up in a chaotic environment and its influence on her understanding of relationships.
Bev, a certified practitioner and executive leader, explores how early attachment styles, whether secure or insecure, profoundly impact adult relationships. She delves into the origins and manifestations of different attachment styles—secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant.
Bev also discusses how awareness and dedicated work can shift one's attachment style towards secure attachment, enhancing relationship dynamics and emotional well-being. Practical advice and the importance of understanding one’s own needs and trust levels in fostering healthier connections are highlighted, making this a valuable conversation for anyone looking to improve their relational patterns.
00:00 Introduction to Bev Mitelman's Story
00:56 Bev's Formative Years and Personal Growth
02:29 Discovering Attachment Styles
05:58 Understanding Secure Attachment
09:16 Insecure Attachment Styles Explained
12:34 Healing and Changing Attachment Styles
14:24 Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships
24:01 Anxious Preoccupied Attachment
28:05 Dismissive Avoidant Attachment
30:22 Understanding Emotional Unavailability
30:46 The Impact of Childhood on Adult Relationships
31:20 Different Attachment Styles
32:59 Fearful Avoidance and Its Challenges
34:42 The Importance of Self-Understanding in Relationships
41:59 Communicating Needs in Relationships
51:42 Maintaining Personal Wellbeing
54:56 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
