Why I’m Not Raising a Good Girl (Even When I Really Want Her to Just Listen)

This episode is for you if...
…you’ve ever lost it before 8am, then hidden in the bathroom five minutes later feeling like you’ve failed at this whole calm parenting thing.

Today, I’m talking about a topic I’m so passionate about—why I’m not raising a “good girl” (and what I’m choosing instead).

I talk about the hidden pressure to raise kids who are quiet, compliant, and easy… and why that’s not the same as raising kids who are emotionally healthy and confident.

I share the real reasons why our children’s big feelings feel so threatening, what to use again and again—especially on the messiest days.

We chat about:

• How “good girl” conditioning still lives in you (and what it teaches our daughters)
• Why your child’s meltdown can feel like a personal failure—and why it’s not
• What to say to yourself when you’ve snapped
• What I mean by the 30% rule (hint: it’s not about getting it right all the time)
• What to do when your partner just wants them to "do what they're told"
• Why I’m focusing less on “goodness” and more on connection

And because I’m a therapist and a mum, you know I always want to give you some  practical tools:
 ✨ Nervous system calming tools you can actually use in the moment
 ✨ Journaling prompts to unpack your own “good girl” stories
 ✨ Scripts and mindset shifts for parenting alongside a partner who doesn’t parent like you

If you’re tired of shouting, overthinking, or trying to be perfect—this is for you.

📝 Things I mention in this episode:

• My free printable planners to help you feel more in control of your week: link
• RAY at Glastonbury and the lyric I haven’t stopped thinking about link
• My go-to calming phrase when I feel triggered
• ChatGPT’s advice on night nappies (yep, really)

💛 Want to go deeper?
Explore 1:1 coaching with me or find out more about The Mum Reset: www.natashaneyketherapy.com

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