EP 63: Staying Strong and Sober Through Grief and Loss, With Amy - Part 2

In this episode, Traci helps Amy recenter and ground herself, and shows her a couple of soothing techniques.  When she asks Amy if there's anything she can help with, Amy asks for help with an unhealthy relationship she had with Eli.  Using The Hilarity and Hypnosis Approach, Traci breaks the bad feelings for Eli using karaoke songs that Amy likes to sing.  At the end of the session, Amy thanks Traci for saving her life, as she was collecting meds with the intent to overdose after her dog Sweet Pea died.  She tells how she threw out the medications after her first session with Traci.

Grounding and Future Plans Traci asks Amy if she feels more grounded, to which Amy responds affirmatively. Traci guides Amy to visualize a shape and color that feels good to her, leading Amy to choose a purple heart. Amy reflects on her recent actions, acknowledging her progress and the tools she has acquired to handle challenges. Traci and Amy discuss Amy's future plans, including the possibility of fostering another dog and starting a lifestyle meeting at a local dungeon.

Balancing Relationships and Emotional Health Amy expresses her fear of reattaching to James unhealthily, having previously made him her sole source of joy. Traci reassures Amy that avoiding James is not healthy and suggests maintaining some contact to avoid feeling deprived. Amy reflects on her past experiences with attachment and the importance of balancing her emotional health with her relationship with James. Traci and Amy discuss the concept of new relationship energy (NRE) and how it affects their feelings and behavior.

Exploring New Relationships Amy shares her experience with a new guy, Sean, who is also poly and has recently switched from a hierarchical to an anarchical relationship model. Traci and Amy discuss the importance of having clear boundaries and expectations in relationships, using the "rate of date" system to evaluate potential partners. Amy reflects on her past relationships and how they have shaped her current approach to dating and attachment. Traci encourages Amy to continue working on her emotional health and secure attachment style, emphasizing the importance of self-care.

Addressing Past Trauma Amy requests help in addressing past sexual traumas, particularly with a partner named Eli who violated her boundaries. Traci and Amy discuss the impact of these traumas on Amy's current relationships and emotional well-being. Amy shares details of her relationship with Eli, including his refusal to wear condoms and the health issues it caused her. Traci guides Amy through a visualization exercise to release her emotions and feelings about Eli, emphasizing the importance of setting healthy boundaries.

Letting Go of Past Relationships Traci and Amy use a metaphorical microwave to symbolize letting go of the negative aspects of Amy's relationship with Eli. Amy expresses relief and a sense of peace after the exercise, feeling more empowered to set boundaries and maintain healthy relationships. Traci encourages Amy to continue practicing self-care and to reach out to James to see how it affects her emotionally. Amy reflects on the progress she has made in her emotional and relationship journey, feeling more centered and at peace.

Future Plans and Reflections Amy shares her excitement about future plans, including a trip to Vegas with James to meet her parents. Traci and Amy discuss the importance of living in the moment and not future-tripping, emphasizing the need to focus on the present. Amy expresses gratitude for the support and guidance she has received, feeling more confident in her ability to handle challenges. Traci and Amy conclude the session with a heartfelt exchange, expressing their appreciation for each other and the positive impact of their conversations.

Please check the link for the Heart Coherence Technique Video: Heart Coherence Technique

You can download the RATE-A-DATE sheet here: Traci's Rate-A-Date System

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