Stepping out of the drama - how we have a choice over the different roles we play (S1E7)

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You can see the Drama Triangle playing out in boardrooms, teams, family units, friendship groups - in fact, almost any situation where people come together. You can also see it playing out in the way we relate to ourselves.

The rescuer says... let me help e.g.: "I have the quick fix, I know best, you can't manage without me."

The victim says... nothing's going right e.g.: "Poor me, others always get more, no one values me, it's easier for 'them'."

The persecutor says... you don't get to decide e.g.: "You don't know anything, you're a fool, you never do it right."

These roles: persecutor, rescuer, victim - they're what we adopt when things start to go wrong... whenever there's any kind of drama. And they interplay with each other in a way that reinforces the behaviour of others, until we all just get stuck. We just keep climbing into the same old hamster wheel every time something goes wrong.

So how do we move on?

In this Reegroup Hour, I share how we can step out of the Drama Triangle roles we unconsciously assign ourselves. And how by stepping into a place where we see ourselves and others through the lens of compassion, we can create more beneficial outcomes.

There is often a complexity to these roles - and if there is anything that it raises for you, that you would like to explore further, please do get in touch. The Drama Triangle can shine a light on continuous patterns of behaviour that may have trapped us in the past. Once we notice these, we can then decide what new behaviours we choose in their place.

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