Is being 'good' costing you too much?

Do you remember the first time you learned you needed to be "good" to be loved? Perhaps it was a gold star for sitting quietly, or praise for putting others first, or the silent treatment when you spoke up too loudly. For Chelle, it was a little golden book that cost just 40 cents at the supermarket checkout - a book that would shape how she saw herself for decades to come.

[1:04] Evie introduces Dr. Chelle McQuaid and their upcoming books: "The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl" and "The Perfectly Imperfect Women's Journal" launching February 2025.

[1:46] Chelle shares the story of "The Good Little Bad Little Girl" book from her childhood.

[5:10] Chelle recounts her experience hiking in Nepal, where she received the message that "success was joyfully following what called to her heart" – the catalyst that inspired these books.

[7:34] Chelle shares her struggle with perfectionism through the story of walking the Camino Portuguese. [21:41] Chelle introduces the 'Be a Yeti' tool - a practical tool for managing perfectionism and overfunctioning.

[23:37] Chelle discusses a pivotal moment in her journey of people-pleasing – the difficult decision to end her marriage.

[30:19] Chelle shares the 'Show Up For Yourself' tool (Safe, Seen, Soothed, Secure) - a practical approach for rebuilding secure attachment with ourselves.

[37:42] Chelle courageously shares her childhood trauma and the cost of silencing herself to protect others, highlighting how speaking her truth ultimately led to healing for herself and her family.

[46:45] Chelle introduces the 'Moving Towards Your Parts' tool from Internal Family Systems, explaining the three steps: Noticing, Knowing, and understanding what our parts Need.

[51:04] Chelle shares the core message of the books: Learning to ask "On whose terms and for whose benefit are you living your wild and precious life?"

[54:43] Post show behind-the-scenes with Evie and Chelle.