How do you deal with disagreements?

What do you do when a conversation gets uncomfortable? When someone’s perspective challenges yours, do you lean in, get defensive or shut down? It’s easy to retreat into habits of self-protection, but these moments don’t have to push us apart — they can be opportunities for deeper understanding, growth, and connection when we create a space of compassion for ourselves and each other.

[0:57] Chelle introduces Anna Milaeva, certified transformational coach and internal family systems practitioner who helps leaders, teams and organizations bridge deep inner work with practical execution.

[2:39] Anna shares a "uniquely you" moment about bringing IFS coaching to lawyers despite her inner critic voices.

[5:13] Anna explains Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a model of human transformation that views ourselves as a system with different parts that can be in conflict or alliance.

[7:23] Anna describes how IFS helps us connect with our parts through conversation rather than pushing them away.

[10:32] Anna shares how she introduces IFS workshops by creating space for curiosity.

[14:19] Chelle and Anna discuss perfectionist parts and how IFS tools can help support them through conversation and understanding their needs.

[16:39] Anna explains how connecting with our breath can help us access Self energy - the wiser, calmer version of ourselves.

[19:41] Chelle and Anna discuss how transformation is a lifestyle that requires daily practice through regenerative habits that bring more energy rather than depleting us.

[32:04] Chelle and Anna discuss how coming from Self energy with curiosity and compassion is more effective than blame and shame.

[33:51] Anna emphasizes that transformation is practice and we'll all make mistakes, but we can build self-energy through regenerative habits and group support.

[39:24] Anna and Chelle discuss how leading with compassion doesn't mean being passive.

[43.28] Chelle & Evie post-show behind the scenes.