1. EachPod
EachPod

Do you really belong?

Author
Michelle McQuaid
Published
Mon 07 Oct 2024
Episode Link
https://michellemcquaid.substack.com/p/do-you-really-belong

When it comes to the relationships you prioritize in your life - family, friends, colleagues, and community - do you really belong, or are you just fitting in?

[0.46] Chelle introduces Dr. Dan Siegel, founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA and the executive director of the Mindsight Institute. [1.42] Dan shares his tool on how understanding our brain is in the 'palm of our hands' which provides insights into how we can better comprehend the workings of our brain.

[3.58] Dan teaches us about the 5 F's - fight, flee, freeze, faint/flop and fawn reaction states and how these impact our protection and connection systems in our brain.

[8.35] Dan shares how his 4S model of safe, seen, soothed and secure relates to his new work on intra-connection, insecure and secure attachment.

[12.15] Chelle shares her lived experience around people pleasing and how she used Dan's tools to reparent herself to feel safe, seen, soothed and secure.

[18.22] Dan offers a fresh perspective on the modern concept of 'the Self,' suggesting that this definition may contribute to a sense of disconnection from the Whole. As an alternative, he introduces his idea of 'MWe.'

[22.38] Dan explains what 'MWe' means and how this word helps us to embrace the Me and We as an intraconnected whole.

[26.35] Dan challenges us on the meaning of the words 'belonging' and 'self-identity'.

[37.22] Post show behind-the-scenes.



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michellemcquaid.substack.com

Share to: