The Hidden Cost of Being “Too Convenient” | What Self-Abandonment Is Really Costing You and Why You Feel Invisible in Your Relationships

Are you always adjusting, accommodating, and putting everyone else first… only to feel unseen, underappreciated, and emotionally drained?

If so, this episode of The Femme Cast is your wake-up call.

Because being “too convenient” in your relationships isn’t loving—it’s self-abandonment in disguise.

In this deep and unfiltered conversation, I pull back the curtain on the trauma-driven pattern of self-sacrifice, and how the fear of being abandoned by others often stems from a deeper, more painful truth: we abandoned ourselves first.

From caregiving burnout to the endless to-do lists that never seem to include you, I share the raw and real stories from my own life—because I know how easy it is to lose yourself when you're constantly showing up for everyone else.

Inside this episode, we explore:

🎤 Why the fear of abandonment is really a lack of safety within yourself

🎤 How being “convenient” trains people to disregard your needs

🎤 The energetic message you're unknowingly sending out that says: “I don’t matter.”

🎤 How people-pleasing is a trauma response rooted in survival, not love

🎤 The exact moment I realized my own self-worth was on the back burner—and how I changed it
🎤 How to begin rewriting this pattern so you no longer trade your needs for temporary approval
🎤 Why the people who truly love and value you will stay—even when you start saying no

This episode is a must-listen if you're ready to stop waiting for someone else to choose you, prioritize you, or validate your worth.

Because the truth is: your healing begins the moment you decide to choose yourself—every single time.

If this episode hits home, share it with a sister who needs it. Let’s unlearn the patterns that kept us small and start creating relationships where we actually feel seen, held, and chosen. 

You matter. Your needs matter. 
And it's time the world around you starts reflecting that back.

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But fair warning—authentic connections, aligned opportunities, and breakthroughs in love, money, and purpose are inevitable.