The Cool Girl Trap: How Staying Connected After Betrayal Keeps You Stuck in Pain

Have you ever kept contact with someone who betrayed you—just to prove you’re “unbothered”? Maybe you’ve told yourself you’re strong, confident, and over it… while inside, you’re secretly crumbling.

In this raw and unfiltered episode of The Femme Cast, I pull back the curtain on one of the most destructive cycles I stayed stuck in after betrayal: maintaining contact with my ex to prove I didn’t care. On the outside, I looked like the “cool girl”—chill, unaffected, even introducing him to friends he flirted with. But behind the scenes, every interaction was gut-wrenching. Watching him move on, seeing him comment on my friends’ posts, and pretending I was fine triggered my deepest wounds of unworthiness, abandonment, and rejection over and over again.

The truth? The damage from staying connected was far worse than the original betrayal itself.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

🎤 Why staying in contact with someone who betrayed you reinforces your deepest insecurities and blocks your healing.

🎤 How the “cool girl” façade keeps you trapped in pain while robbing you of true confidence.

🎤 Why cutting off communication isn’t about letting them “win”—it’s about choosing yourself.

🎤 The exact mindset shift that allowed me to finally block, detach, and detox from toxic connections.

🎤 How betrayal can become the most powerful catalyst for growth when you create the safe container to heal.

This episode is both a warning and an invitation: stop sacrificing your healing for appearances. Your greatest revenge isn’t pretending you’re okay—it’s actually becoming okay. It’s choosing yourself, setting the boundary, and stepping into the version of you who no longer needs external validation to feel worthy.

If you’ve been betrayed and you’re still holding on—listening to their stories, watching their posts, or answering their texts—this episode will show you why letting go is the ultimate act of self-love.

It’s time to cut the cord. It’s time to choose you.

PS: Still bending, chasing, and settling? That ends now.

In a 90-min Sacred Reclamation Intensive, you’ll break the cycle, reclaim your power, and step into the woman who never begs to be chosen. Spots are limited — grab yours here: 👉 [Book now]

But fair warning—authentic connections, aligned opportunities, and breakthroughs in love, money, and purpose are inevitable.