Why You Still Reach for the Wine: Lapses, Nervous System Triggers, and the Real Reason You Can’t Just Stop Drinking

Why do we keep drinking when we know we feel better without it? In this honest episode, I look at the connection between relapse/lapse, alcohol cravings, and the nervous system. If you've ever said “I feel better sober… and still, I drank,” this conversation is for you.

You'll learn:

• Why your nervous system defaults to alcohol as a coping mechanism
• How stress, overwhelm, and trauma wire your body for old patterns
• Why willpower and shame aren’t the answer (and what actually helps)
• The role of somatic and breath work in regulating cravings and emotional triggers
• Why relapse isn’t failure—it’s biology
• How to gently rewire your nervous system for true, lasting freedom

Whether you're sober-curious, in recovery, or simply noticing how often you use alcohol to cope, this episode is a compassionate, science-backed perspective—and real tools to support your healing journey.

Stress is the doorway. Coming home to yourself is the journey.

If you’re ready to start your journey, here’s where you can begin:

• The Micro-Regulation Toolkit ($27) — 7 days of nervous system practices to help you get quick wins and feel grounded fast.
• The Personal Power Map — a personalized breakdown of your stress patterns, hidden strengths, and next power move, complete with a video report from me so you can feel my coaching style and energy.
• Rooted & Rising — my 4-week breathwork series for women ready to go deeper into healing, release, and expansion together. Starts September 25
• And if you’re craving high-touch, transformational support, I also offer 1:1 mentorship.

You don’t need more random information from instagram—you need tools, practices, and perspective that actually help you feel different.

Explore everything at thedeliberateone.com, and come connect with me on Instagram @thedeliberateone.