Four Destructive Behaviours That Can Lead To Divorce, with Zach Brittle

Research by John Gottman discovered four behaviours that were statistically linked to divorce. We discuss how to identify and manage these behaviours in your relationship. 

They have been labelled “The Four Horseman Of The Apocalypse”, which are Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. And if these behaviours are present in a relationship, over time it has been shown to predict that divorce is likely. 

Now, don’t panic yet. Almost all relationships display some of these behaviours at different times. But if more than one of them is present on a regular basis, then it’s probably something you need to address. 

On today’s episode with couples counsellor Zach Brittle, we discuss ways to identify them, label them and manage them in your relationship. 

We also talk about strategies for date nights and nurturing your relationships once kids arrive. And to top it off, Zach shares a couple of very bad dad jokes!

What you'll learn

• How Zach stumbled into couples therapy and discovered it was his passion
• Zach’s training with John Gottman at the Gottman Institute
• John Gottman’s research in the Love Lab in Seattle
• The Four Horsemen Of The Apocalypse and how these 4 behaviours will kill your relationships if you don’t learn to  identify them and deal with them
• Why two-thirds of the problems in a relationship will never be solved
• How to focus on solvable problems and learn to live with unsolvable problems. 
• Why so many relationships have problems following the arrival of kids
• Strategies for keeping your relationship healthy
• How the COVID-19 pandemic lockdown could impact relationships
• The importance of having a ‘common enemy’ in a relationship
• Zach’s latest book – Marriage Therapy Journal
• And…. some of Zach’s latest dad jokes!

More info
Show notes and related resources are available at https://thedadtrain.com/3