11. The Relationship-Sex Trope™

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Welcome back to The Cliteral Truth! In this episode, we dive into a dynamic we see all too often in our coaching practice—the Relationship-Sex Trope. This common pattern in heterosexual M/F relationships involves men and women approaching relationships with different goals but failing to communicate them honestly.

Here’s what we’ve observed: men often prioritize sex but aren’t upfront about it, so they pretend to be looking for a relationship to fast-track their way to Bridge 5—Sexual Compatibility. On the other hand, women tend to want emotional depth and a secure connection, but in the rush to solidify a partner, they’re hopping straight from Bridge 1—Attraction—to Bridge 7—Secure Base, sometimes making a brief stop at Bridge 5 to meet their partner’s needs.

The problem? Both are skipping over the other bridges that are crucial for building a solid relationship. Bridges like Bias for Communication, Emotional Availability, Safe Haven, and Intimacy are completely overlooked, leaving couples struggling to find lasting connection and fulfillment.

In this episode, we unpack why this trope happens, the damage it does, and how to break free from the cycle. We also offer actionable steps for anyone ready to slow down and do the work to build a healthy, authentic relationship.

If you’ve ever wondered why relationships can feel unbalanced or why your expectations aren’t being met, this episode is for you. Join us as we tackle the missteps and help you map out the bridges you can't afford to skip.

Let’s challenge the trope and redefine what it means to build a meaningful relationship!