You Don’t Have Mindset Issues—You Have Survival Patterns

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re “doing all the right things” but still stuck—resentful, exhausted, numb, or disconnected—this episode is for you. Chelsey Holm goes deep into the truth no one’s saying loud enough: it’s not your mindset. It’s your nervous system. Your survival patterns. Your body remembering past pain and running the show—even when your life looks “fine” on the outside.

In this raw, faith-rooted episode, Chelsey unpacks the personal moment that exposed her own stress response and introduces the SAFE Framework—a tool to help you get out of reactive cycles, regulate your emotions, and reclaim your ability to show up present, powerful, and rooted in God’s peace.

You’ll learn:

• Why mindset work alone will always fall short
• What survival mode looks like in high-functioning wives and passive husbands
• How to notice the signals your body is sending (and why they matter more than your thoughts)
• How to break emotional loops that keep you stuck in shutdown, overthinking, or control
• How to reset your rhythms, rebuild trust, and surrender into peace

If your marriage feels functional but disconnected—or you’re holding everything together out of duty instead of desire—this episode will challenge and free you.

Resources Mentioned:

• Free 15-minute call with Chelsey: chelsey.coach/bookyourcall
• Free video training for wives: Linked in show notes
• DM Chelsey on Instagram: @chelsey_noel

Stop white-knuckling your life. Let’s dismantle survival mode—and build something holy.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’s design in marriage, motherhood, and life."

Grab my free training here: https://chelsey.coach/highlevelwife-blueprint

2x certified Coach (John Maxwell Leadership, Kristen Boss SSLS)
10+ years coaching experience
NASM-certified in Personal Training and Nutrition
Mom of 5, Army wife 16 years

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