From Performing to Present | Ditching Old Navigational Systems for a DEEPER Me

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For a long time, I believed if I could just be what he wanted—fun enough, relaxed enough, “cool wife” enough—we’d feel connected again.

So I performed.
 I drank when I didn’t want to.
 Went places that broke my heart.
 Said yes when my nervous system was screaming no.

I was surviving, not living.
 And it created a false sense of connection that left me buried in shame and exhaustion.

In this episode, I’m getting real about:

• How performance-based love shows up in marriage
• What it cost me (and what it didn’t heal)
• How I started showing up rooted, regulated, and truly me again
• What presence and true intimacy actually require

If you’ve ever lost yourself trying to be what someone else needed, this one’s for you.

It’s not about becoming something else.
 It’s about returning to who God made you to be.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
"I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’s design in marriage, motherhood, and life."

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2x certified Coach (John Maxwell Leadership, Kristen Boss SSLS)
10+ years coaching experience
NASM-certified in Personal Training and Nutrition
Mom of 5, Army wife 16 years

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