The Good, The Bad & The Ugly of a Type 9 in Relationship

The Enneagram 9, often called The Peacemaker, is known for their calm, grounded, and accepting nature. But what does this really look like in a relationship — when it’s healthy, when it’s struggling, and when it turns downright messy?

In this episode, we dive deep into the good, the bad, and the ugly sides of the Enneagram 9 in relationships. You’ll discover:

The gifts a 9 brings into love — peace, empathy, and loyalty The struggles they face — indecision, conflict avoidance, and complacency The ugly shadow — passive-aggression, emotional withdrawal, and explosive anger when pushed too far

If you or your partner identify as an Enneagram 9, this episode will help you understand how to nurture connection, navigate challenges, and avoid the traps that lead to disconnection.

Whether you’re an Enneagram enthusiast, in a relationship with a 9, or exploring your own patterns, this conversation will give you practical insight into building healthier, more intentional love.

• Why Enneagram 9s bring calm and harmony into relationships

• The hidden dangers of conflict avoidance and self-erasure

• How numbing and passive-aggression can damage intimacy

• Practical growth paths for Peacemakers in love

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