EP 225: The Truth About Monogamy vs Polyamory: Transitioning Your Relationship, The Pathologisation of Polyamory, and the Aubrey Marcus Debate

Author: David Chambers
Published: Wed 28 May 2025
Episode Link: https://sites.libsyn.com/148730/ep-225-the-truth-about-monogamy-vs-polyamory-transitioning-your-relationship-the-pathologisation-of-polyamory-and-the-aubrey-marcus-debate

Thinking about opening your relationship? Watch this first. In this powerful and eye-opening conversation, relationship therapist and polyamory coach Roy Graff joins David Chambers to unpack what truly needs to happen before couples transition from monogamy to polyamory or ethical non-monogamy.

They explore the essential mindset, emotional preparation, and communication tools that most couples skip—leading to heartbreak, jealousy, or breakdown. From trauma-informed relational insights to real-life experiences and practical steps, this episode is a must-watch for anyone curious about open relationships, polyamory, or improving communication in long-term love.

Roy Graff is a counsellor, life and relationship coach who draws on his training in Psychosynthesis psychotherapy, Radical Honesty, Non-violent Communication and Wheel of Consent training to offer coaching and mentoring to individuals, couples and polycules. He can help you with relationship issues, honesty and authenticity in relating, life transformation and major life crises.

KEY TOPICS:

⭐ Polyamory As A Conscious Alternative To Traditional Monogamy

⭐ Misconceptions, Projections, And Social Judgment Of Open Relationships

⭐ Therapist Bias And Lack Of Polyamory-Informed Clinical Training

⭐ Healing Trauma Through Open Relationships And Emotional Inquiry

⭐ “Why Do You Want This?” — The Importance Of Inner Motivation

⭐ How To Create Agreements, Not Rules — Flexibility In Relationships

⭐ The Power Of Vulnerability And Radical Emotional Honesty

⭐ Polyamory ≠ Avoidance

⭐ The Freedom To Love Without Possession Or Control

⭐ Community, Support Circles, And Normalizing Polyamorous Lives

⭐ Why “Successful” Relationships Don’t Have To Last Forever