E9: Lilly Rachels - Mastering Mindful Communication in Dating & Relationships

Lilly Rachels specializes in helping men build strong relationships through effective communication. She joins us to share insights from her training, client work, and personal relationships empowering listeners with key skills to resolve conflict, listen with intention, and deeply connect. Tune in to hear Lilly’s insights on what it means to be in an aligned relationship, how to use a feedback loop to engage in arguments, and what to avoid to keep healthy communication alive. We delve into the importance of understanding what is behind your communication style, and how to apply mindful communication to the dating world. Our hope for this episode is that you leave with more curiosity about yourself, your partner, and the potential connections that await in the dating pool. Thanks for tuning in! 

Key Points From This Episode:

• Introducing Lilly Rachels and her journey from personal trainer to psychotherapist to coach. 
• Lilly sets the intention for this episode of the podcast: that listeners leave with more curiosity.
• Her journey to exploring the mind body connection and psychotherapy.
• Why effective communication is so crucial to navigating the dating world.
• How Lilly and her partner approach communication and conflict.
• The importance of understanding why you communicate the way that you do. 
• How to use a feedback loop to engage in disagreements.
• Two things that are going to kill your communication. 
• Differentiating between verbal and non-verbal communication and how to capitalize on both.
• How to listen while you are dating.
• What it means to Lilly to be in an aligned relationship.

Quotes:

“If you learn how to communicate properly, even ruptures in partnership, or in friendships, bring you closer together.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:11:33]

“A lot of people think that they know how to communicate, but they don’t know how to listen.” — @LillyRachels [0:13:58]

“Assumptions and misunderstandings; those are the two things that are going to kill your communication.” — @LillyRachels [0:20:58]

“People tell you who they are if you listen to them.” — @LillyRachels [0:31:28]

“Truly, that’s the bread and butter when it comes to being in partnership; [being with someone who] you can be yourself with and not feel like you have to hide.” — @LaurenZoeller [0:39:19]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Lilly Rachels
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Lilly Rachels on LinkedIn
Watch Lauren's FREE Find Your Soulmate Mini Training
Lauren Zoeller
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Lauren Zoeller on TikTok
The Aligned Love Collective
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